Involved with a man who has feelings for you, but who’s not willing to alter his life for you? Here s how to win in this kind of sticky sitch.

Get a Glue-Take note of comments made by your partner about commitments—in your relationship and with others. How does he view it—and is it something he truly shares with you?

ID your issues-Past experiences can affect how you view and judge you present situations. Understanding your own issues is crucial—so they’ll work for you and ultimately help you spot a toxic relationship and t your chances for a better one.

The best ally:yourself- “You may feel that if he won’t live with you [for instance], you’d prefer to find someone who w1l7 say sex and relationships experts Dr. David Delvin and Christine Webber. “It’s a difficult decision, but one that only you can make.”

Listen to your gut- If it doesn’t feel right, ask yourself if you’re wiling to stick it out and make the sacrifice in this kind of incompatible relationship “out of hope.”

Leave for the right reasons- Don’t leave to teach him a lesson or
change him, advises Bonacci. “Leave because it’s the best thing for you to do. Leave because it frees you up to find someone who really loves you.”